Last Sunday I began a new series from Paul’s letter to the Ephesian believers called Blessed Beyond Belief. When I think of the extent that God showed His incredible love for us – it is hard to wrap my mind around it. HE CHOSE US, before the foundations of the world, to call us His own and adopt us into His family. This flies in the face of the rejection we often face in our lives.
Okay, here are some thoughts about dealing with rejection in your life:
1. Try to separate out the circumstantial from the personal. In other words, there may be times I face rejection, not because of who I am but because of the circumstances. Example: If I don’t land the job, it’s probably not a rejection of who I am but only a circumstantial rejection. SO I CAN’T TAKE IT PERSONAL!
2. There are things we CAN do that make us more acceptable. I am not suggesting that we make acceptance from others our #1 goal or compromise our values. However, I might ask the Holy Spirit to help me change in an area of my life that might turn people away. Let me give you an example: I knew a person who was continually critical and negative. Because of her chronic complaints, she often would have friendships that would disappear. Then she would go into deep depression because she felt rejected. Yet she never changed her negativity. You see, even though God created us to be who we are, there are things that CAN change to make us more acceptable to others. AND they are pleasing to God.
3. Remember this: Jesus was rejected! Hey, it should not catch us totally off guard when we face rejection. The Cross was the ultimate relection. But it was also the place where Jesus promised to heal the pain of rejection in our own lives.
4. Romans 8:31 says this: “If God is for us, who can be against us? 32 He who did not spare his own Son, but gave him up for us all—how will he not also, along with him, graciously give us all things? 33 Who will bring any charge against those whom God has chosen? It is God who justifies. 34 Who then is the one who condemns? No one.”
5. Let go of the pain of the past. If you give it to God, He can heal you. The greatest healing from rejection happens when you realize that HE CHOSE YOU. You are not a random pick but first pick. All else pales in comparison to that one fact. Whatever you do, don’t fall into the devil’s trap to feel sorry for yourself. That only prolongs the pain.
6. Change your conversation from “I’m hurt” to “I’m being healed”. Even though you may have scars, remember, scars prove that we have been hurt BUT also that we have been healed!
Email me and let me know how God is healing you. You can reach me at firstname.lastname@example.org.